How to Win in 2020

Hey guys! Ralph Plaskett here. Author of the acclaimed book, Deepening Growth: Powerful Lessons in Cultivating Your Personal Transformation and founder of the Plaskett Institute where we help passionate coaches, consultants and educators strengthen their personal and professional mastery so that it can create transformational impact.

 

The last time we were together, we were having a conversation about planning for 2020 and beyond. We had a really good conversation about how we can look at the way that we plan to have more intention – a completely different landscape of the way that we look at planning altogether. We came up with some really good results in that conversation. If you haven’t seen that conversation yet, go ahead to the previous video.

 

What I want to have a conversation about today is How to Win in 2020.

 

We’ve talked about planning for 2020, but how do we win in 2020 with all of those plans that we have in place?

 

You see, we can’t go into the new year with the same old habits of the old year. We can’t walk into 2020 with the mindset that we had in 2019.

 

Now we might have had a fantastic 2019. We might have slewed all of the obstacles that were in front of us and we might have won completely. Yet, there’s still an ambition within you to go to that next level. There are thoughts that you have that you want to manifest here in 2020.

 

Whatever your happenings were in 2019, 2020 is here and we need to be able to prepare for a win in 2020.

 

I was just talking to my wife the other day about football. See, we are Clemson fans. My wife attended Clemson so we are full Clemson fans and we are having a blast this season.

 

See you soon LSU.

 

We were having a conversation that football is such an amazing experience because it is a technical game as much as it is a mental game where we’re looking at how do we win from a mental perspective. Yes, the physical and technical side of the game is absolutely critical but it cripples without the mental fortitude akin of champions. If you don’t have the mindset, you won’t be able to achieve the win.

 

There are three things I want to be able to talk to you about today on how to achieve the win in 2020.

 

The first is yes, you’ve guessed it because we’ve talked about it all year round. And I want to be able to end this last video of the year with the very point that I need to make so that we are clear how to win in 2020.

 

#1: This is setting the intention of your feelings.


We are having all of this conversation about setting goals and even conversation about setting our intentions. But we never talk about our feelings, especially us men. Right?

 

If I am feeling sad; if I am feeling happy; if I’m feeling joyful; if I’m feeling depressed; if I’m feeling anxiety; All of these are conversations that we don’t have, nor are they conversations that we set the intention for.

 

When we have a meeting about an opportunity we come up with and think about what we’re going to say in order to have a presentation that is successful. We do all of the technical aspects of achieving this, meaning we set up the presentation, we make sure they have the right colors, we rehearse, but we never have a conversation about the intention of the feelings we want to possess in that meeting.

 

You see, if we’re going into this meeting with an anxious feeling, we are going to represent anxiety in our presentation. But if we go in there with a joyful, positive, “I got this!” feeling, the presentation will be completely different. This example illustrates the way that setting the intention of our feelings can change the entire atmosphere and completely shift things in your positive direction.

 

When we shift our intention towards our feelings – how we want to be – then we have the opportunity for an even greater impact.

 

#2: A clear focus on your impact.


Yes, we have the goals and we have the goal achievement mindset but what is the impact?

 

What impact are you looking for in these goals?

 

What impact are you trying to make in yourself and your family and your community?

 

What’s the impact are you really going for?

 

We have conversations about the goal. We have conversations about the technical things that we need to do, but we don’t often have conversations about the impact.

 

To have a clear focus of the impact that we’re trying to make changes the entire game.

 

I’ll give you an outlandish example. I want to solve world hunger. Now, that is a lofty goal. You can even put some imagination around it on what that really looks like and you could even put a time frame of accomplishing it. You can make it a S.M.A.R.T goal, but it still has no impact.

 

An impact for that goal would be, “I want to make sure that no child goes to bed hungry.”

 

Now that gives me the ability to get out of bed in the morning. That gives me the ammunition to say, regardless of the obstacles and the challenges ahead of me, I am going to pursue this impact.

 

I can see the child going to bed hungry, wishing that they had a snack, wishing that they had a meal, wishing there was something nutritious in their belly. I can’t see that if there’s such a lofty goal of “I want to solve world hunger”.

 

When we have a clear focus on the impact that we’re trying to make, then we have an ability to move past the obstacles that are sure to come. The impact gives us the ability to have a driving force that allows us to move beyond the obstacles in order to achieve the impact that we are making in our goals.

 

#3: Pre-build periods of rest and reflection.

 

We often don’t do this. And this is the sad part because we get to a place of burnout. We get to a place where we’re running and going until we become burnt out. We have physical manifestations of ailments because we are not taking care of ourselves.

 

The pursuit of achievement isn’t just the pursuit of material possessions, but it is a pursuit of a well balanced, rather, harmonious life. And that includes your health and wellbeing. Not only your physical health and wellbeing, from strength and conditioning to nutrition but also your mental health and wellbeing.

 

When we look at our schedule for the 12 months of the year, we must build in periods of rest and reflection. It may be a weekend. It might just be a day but we must build in consistent periods of rest and reflection.

 

The first benefit this gives is obvious. It gives us rest. It gives us the ability to recharge and get back into the game with the same energy and fervency as when we started our goal.

 

The second thing it does is gives us the dedicated time of reflection that we need. And reflection is a superpower that we have as human beings to be able to look at what was and to see ourselves as how we’ve operated in the past.

 

The scientific term for this is metacognition. I often say, “what is meta-Ralph doing?” How am I looking at this situation from a metacognition standpoint?

 

I’ve developed this skill over time, but if we take periods of rest and reflection, we can go back and take time and evaluate, “how did I do this past month? How did I do this past three months? What were the challenges that I faced? How did I handle those challenges?”

 

Periods of rest and reflection are critically important for your harmonious existence. So if we can build those periods of rest and reflection consistently throughout the year and commit to them – not allowing them to be moved off your schedule but really commit to them – then these periods will give us profound benefits.

 

This is especially so in the United States where we don’t give much credence to rest and reflection. We feel like we need to go, go, go. Where in other cultures around the world are very cognizant of the power and the benefit that rest can give us.

 

These are the three things that I wanted to share with you of how to win for 2020.

 

First, let’s set the intention of our feelings.

 

Second, let’s get a clear focus of the impact that we’re trying to make.

 

And third, we need to have prebuilt periods of rest and reflection.

 

These three things are going to allow us to win for 2020 and beyond.

 

When we have access to these tools then we have the ability to make child’s play of our goals. We have more fun. We will be more energetic. We have this ability because we have a clear focus on the impact. We know the feeling that we must have as we come into these opportunities that are before us and certainly, we know how we can recharge through rest and reflection.

 

I implore you to go ahead and utilize these three must-haves for 2020 so that you can have a successful year. I’m so excited for what you’re going to accomplish here in 2020. I’m so excited for the opportunities that are going to be before you.

 

I’m Ralph Plaskett and until next week, enjoy the greatness that is life.

Designing Your Day For Impact

Summary:

We go through our days on autopilot executing our routines with great accuracy leaving us to live a life unfulfilled…skating on mediocrity. Yet, we have the opportunity to experience each day as a fulfilling, exciting, and joyful existence that we can be proud of and call uniquely our own. In this video, I share 6 elements that you can add to your daily routine to design a day of impact.

You’ll learn:

  • 6 essential elements to designing a day of impact
  • Why you cannot avoid routines and you don’t want to
  • How to be and stay happy, excited, and joyful regardless of what is trying to steal your joy
  • Download your workbook so that you can make the most of this training.

Transcript / Article:

Hey guys, Ralph Plaskett here. So glad you could join me this week on our continuing conversation about the things that really drive impact in our lives. Things that cause us to explore more and go deeper into various topics so that we could become the full expression of ourselves.

Let me know if this sounds familiar. So you wake up in the morning and you usually do what you usually do. In fact, you may even call it a morning routine. You go through this routine on autopilot and you don’t even think the wiser of it. You jump in and car and you know exactly where the traffic spots are. And in fact, you might even be getting anxious about the impending traffic. You get to work and it’s work as usual. You “engage” with the work that you have to do and it is typical. You could have lunch and it is ”the usual”. You know what lunch is or what it is going to be. It may not be what you had yesterday, but it certainly may be something that you had last week. You get home and you engage with your family and in the end, we call it a typical day.

Here’s a reality. We live our lives on autopilot. This description that I just gave was exactly a depiction of our lives and autopilot. And as you heard, it’s very routine. It becomes very boring, mediocre, less engaging than we ought to be able to live. So, so what is happening here? What happens is that by design that we live our lives on autopilot. Our brains are intended to become as efficient as they possibly can which results in our dependence on routines.

It would be way too much for our brains to have to relearn the activities that we have come to do by routine.

I think about it: You don’t think about walking. You just simply walk. You don’t think about how you brush your teeth. You just simply brush your teeth.

This causes us to live a life on autopilot and there is no blame here. But we have the opportunity to wake up from this autopilot life to live an engaged, fulfilling, joyful life of intention.

But how do we get there?

I have the humbling opportunity to coach some of the most amazing people in the world. And when I ask really simple yet profound questions, it often throws many of them off guard. Questions like, how do you show up? You see, the questions like “how do you show up?” forces one to think about the act of showing up. “What do you mean “how do I show up?” I just had to show up.” See the very act, the very question begs intention. How are we intentionally showing up to life?

So much of our life is on autopilot. The question becomes, how are you shifting from autopilot to manual?

I want to share with you six design elements of designing your day for impact. You see, when we’re intentional, we can wake up from the autopilot and really shape a day that we have designed. We can design a life that causes us to be more fulfilled, more engaged, more alive. So let’s go ahead and take a look at these six elements of an impactful day.

#1 Setting the mood.

Yes, yes. You’ve got to set the mood. Really. Have you ever asked yourself what kind of day am I going to have? By asking questions like “What kind of day am I going to have?” and “What kind of emotion do I want to hold today?” These are not typical things we ask ourselves. We get into our autopilot mode and we just simply do. We have our typical morning routine that we may change slightly but we don’t consciously think of the kind of day, the kind of emotion that we want to carry within a day.

When we’re able to shift from the perspective of autopilot to intention, then we can design a day where we carry the mood that we most want to hold. If I want to be joyful; if I want to be happy, How can I set the mood so that I can carry that emotion day in and day out?

You see, one powerful strategy is to hold a message for the day. What do I mean by holding the message? There is no shortage of inspirational and motivational quotes online. In fact, you can create your own, frankly. The power in those motivational quotes is really what kind of message do I want to carry to today? What message do I have for myself?

“I am going to have an amazing day” can be as simple of a message as that and carrying that with you causes you to simply have an amazing day. This isn’t talking about law of attraction or anything of that sort. Simply saying that I’m going to have an amazing day and intentionally declaring that causes an entire shift in your day. You shift from autopilot into intentional.

“I want to have an amazing day, so therefore I’m going to protect the thing that I want to have. I’m going to protect amazing.” So when something comes up against “amazing”, I am going to shield it with whatever I need to shield it: whatever strategy that I’m going to use to shield my amazing day.

So when you set the mood, be it with the strategy of a motivational or inspirational quote, or having this message that you hold for yourself. When you set the mood, you can start your day of an intention.

#2 One bold action.

When we are living a life on autopilot, we are simply just going into our routine. So when we’re in a routine, we just don’t do things that are outside of our routine. It wouldn’t even be called a routine otherwise. So in order to shift from that, we’ve got to take action. And frankly, not just simply any old action. We have to take bold action.

So what is something that you could do that takes you outside of your routine and frankly, even outside of your comfort zone, to allow you to, engage that much deeper, to have that much more of a fulfilling experience? Simply one bold action can shift you away from a mediocre, autopilot existence into an intentional existence around the mood that you want to set.

#3 Spontaneous Thanksgiving.

What can you do to give more of yourself? It doesn’t actually have to be something that you give, but simply being more present is a means of giving. If you actually want to give something that’s a powerful strategy as well. In fact, the act of giving releases happiness chemicals within your brain. You see, the very act of giving is not only beneficial for you because you received happiness chemicals in your brain and you feel much more alive, but it’s also releasing the happiness chemicals in the other person’s brain who’s receiving your giving because they feel appreciated. They feel thankful. It goes around and around.

So being spontaneous in your giving is a wonderful strategy/tool that you can use to be a lot more engaged and intentional.

So those three design elements are the things that we want to carry with us for the beginning part of our day as we’re considering how we’re designing a day of impact. Now at the end of our day, we have three more design elements that we want to use so that we can continue the act of intention.

#4: Reflective Acknowledgement.

So as we reflect back in our day, How did it go? Was it good? Was it bad? Did you actually do what you committed to yourself to do? We need to be able to gauge how intentional we were.

“I’m, I really commit to this thing call ‘intention’ because I know that intention is tied to these other goals that I have, that I want to be able to wake up from a reality of autopilot to a reality that I have the power to shape.”

Spontaneous acknowledgment allows us to go ahead and reflect back to our day and see how did it go.

#5 Reflective Improvement.

Here is the thing: If we do all of these strategies, we can fall right back into autopilot. Reflective improvement gives us the capability to not allow ourselves to fall into autopilot. What it does is says, “Hey, as good as a day may have been, how could I have done it better? What could I have done to do this better? What could I have done to do that better?”

These questions of improvement allow us not to fall back into autopilot but continued the mindset and the frame of intention. And as we continue intention, we can learn different ways to be more awake at life.

#6 Reflective Appreciation.

What did you like most about today? What was your, what were you most thankful about today?

You see each and every single day that we live is an opportunity that we shouldn’t take lightly.

There are so many who were around us that don’t have the opportunity of life. Because we have the opportunity life, we should be appreciative of every moment that we have. But frankly, what was the most important moment for you today? What was the most appreciative moment that you had?

Days like this is where I reflect back and I say, “Man! That smile on my daughter’s face was one of the most appreciative moments of my day. That smile of my son’s, of my wife’s, those are the appreciative moments of my day. Whatever it may be for you, as we reflect back on the appreciation for the day, it has a powerful effect on what we’re going to do the next day.

As we build intention into our routine and we create our routine not to become something on autopilot, but a routine that allows us to wake up to the intention that we can carry out each and every single day, we then have the capability of designing a life, not just simply a day, but an entire life that we can be proud of. A life that can be engaging, powerful, and fulfilling.

I’m Ralph Plaskett. I am so excited to be able to share this information with you. I would love to hear how you’re taking this information and applying it to your life. Let me know in the comments down below of this video of what strategy that you decided to take and put as part of your routine. I’m Ralph Plaskett and until next week, enjoy the greatness that is life.