Designing Your Day For Impact

Summary:

We go through our days on autopilot executing our routines with great accuracy leaving us to live a life unfulfilled…skating on mediocrity. Yet, we have the opportunity to experience each day as a fulfilling, exciting, and joyful existence that we can be proud of and call uniquely our own. In this video, I share 6 elements that you can add to your daily routine to design a day of impact.

You’ll learn:

  • 6 essential elements to designing a day of impact
  • Why you cannot avoid routines and you don’t want to
  • How to be and stay happy, excited, and joyful regardless of what is trying to steal your joy
  • Download your workbook so that you can make the most of this training.

Transcript / Article:

Hey guys, Ralph Plaskett here. So glad you could join me this week on our continuing conversation about the things that really drive impact in our lives. Things that cause us to explore more and go deeper into various topics so that we could become the full expression of ourselves.

Let me know if this sounds familiar. So you wake up in the morning and you usually do what you usually do. In fact, you may even call it a morning routine. You go through this routine on autopilot and you don’t even think the wiser of it. You jump in and car and you know exactly where the traffic spots are. And in fact, you might even be getting anxious about the impending traffic. You get to work and it’s work as usual. You “engage” with the work that you have to do and it is typical. You could have lunch and it is ”the usual”. You know what lunch is or what it is going to be. It may not be what you had yesterday, but it certainly may be something that you had last week. You get home and you engage with your family and in the end, we call it a typical day.

Here’s a reality. We live our lives on autopilot. This description that I just gave was exactly a depiction of our lives and autopilot. And as you heard, it’s very routine. It becomes very boring, mediocre, less engaging than we ought to be able to live. So, so what is happening here? What happens is that by design that we live our lives on autopilot. Our brains are intended to become as efficient as they possibly can which results in our dependence on routines.

It would be way too much for our brains to have to relearn the activities that we have come to do by routine.

I think about it: You don’t think about walking. You just simply walk. You don’t think about how you brush your teeth. You just simply brush your teeth.

This causes us to live a life on autopilot and there is no blame here. But we have the opportunity to wake up from this autopilot life to live an engaged, fulfilling, joyful life of intention.

But how do we get there?

I have the humbling opportunity to coach some of the most amazing people in the world. And when I ask really simple yet profound questions, it often throws many of them off guard. Questions like, how do you show up? You see, the questions like “how do you show up?” forces one to think about the act of showing up. “What do you mean “how do I show up?” I just had to show up.” See the very act, the very question begs intention. How are we intentionally showing up to life?

So much of our life is on autopilot. The question becomes, how are you shifting from autopilot to manual?

I want to share with you six design elements of designing your day for impact. You see, when we’re intentional, we can wake up from the autopilot and really shape a day that we have designed. We can design a life that causes us to be more fulfilled, more engaged, more alive. So let’s go ahead and take a look at these six elements of an impactful day.

#1 Setting the mood.

Yes, yes. You’ve got to set the mood. Really. Have you ever asked yourself what kind of day am I going to have? By asking questions like “What kind of day am I going to have?” and “What kind of emotion do I want to hold today?” These are not typical things we ask ourselves. We get into our autopilot mode and we just simply do. We have our typical morning routine that we may change slightly but we don’t consciously think of the kind of day, the kind of emotion that we want to carry within a day.

When we’re able to shift from the perspective of autopilot to intention, then we can design a day where we carry the mood that we most want to hold. If I want to be joyful; if I want to be happy, How can I set the mood so that I can carry that emotion day in and day out?

You see, one powerful strategy is to hold a message for the day. What do I mean by holding the message? There is no shortage of inspirational and motivational quotes online. In fact, you can create your own, frankly. The power in those motivational quotes is really what kind of message do I want to carry to today? What message do I have for myself?

“I am going to have an amazing day” can be as simple of a message as that and carrying that with you causes you to simply have an amazing day. This isn’t talking about law of attraction or anything of that sort. Simply saying that I’m going to have an amazing day and intentionally declaring that causes an entire shift in your day. You shift from autopilot into intentional.

“I want to have an amazing day, so therefore I’m going to protect the thing that I want to have. I’m going to protect amazing.” So when something comes up against “amazing”, I am going to shield it with whatever I need to shield it: whatever strategy that I’m going to use to shield my amazing day.

So when you set the mood, be it with the strategy of a motivational or inspirational quote, or having this message that you hold for yourself. When you set the mood, you can start your day of an intention.

#2 One bold action.

When we are living a life on autopilot, we are simply just going into our routine. So when we’re in a routine, we just don’t do things that are outside of our routine. It wouldn’t even be called a routine otherwise. So in order to shift from that, we’ve got to take action. And frankly, not just simply any old action. We have to take bold action.

So what is something that you could do that takes you outside of your routine and frankly, even outside of your comfort zone, to allow you to, engage that much deeper, to have that much more of a fulfilling experience? Simply one bold action can shift you away from a mediocre, autopilot existence into an intentional existence around the mood that you want to set.

#3 Spontaneous Thanksgiving.

What can you do to give more of yourself? It doesn’t actually have to be something that you give, but simply being more present is a means of giving. If you actually want to give something that’s a powerful strategy as well. In fact, the act of giving releases happiness chemicals within your brain. You see, the very act of giving is not only beneficial for you because you received happiness chemicals in your brain and you feel much more alive, but it’s also releasing the happiness chemicals in the other person’s brain who’s receiving your giving because they feel appreciated. They feel thankful. It goes around and around.

So being spontaneous in your giving is a wonderful strategy/tool that you can use to be a lot more engaged and intentional.

So those three design elements are the things that we want to carry with us for the beginning part of our day as we’re considering how we’re designing a day of impact. Now at the end of our day, we have three more design elements that we want to use so that we can continue the act of intention.

#4: Reflective Acknowledgement.

So as we reflect back in our day, How did it go? Was it good? Was it bad? Did you actually do what you committed to yourself to do? We need to be able to gauge how intentional we were.

“I’m, I really commit to this thing call ‘intention’ because I know that intention is tied to these other goals that I have, that I want to be able to wake up from a reality of autopilot to a reality that I have the power to shape.”

Spontaneous acknowledgment allows us to go ahead and reflect back to our day and see how did it go.

#5 Reflective Improvement.

Here is the thing: If we do all of these strategies, we can fall right back into autopilot. Reflective improvement gives us the capability to not allow ourselves to fall into autopilot. What it does is says, “Hey, as good as a day may have been, how could I have done it better? What could I have done to do this better? What could I have done to do that better?”

These questions of improvement allow us not to fall back into autopilot but continued the mindset and the frame of intention. And as we continue intention, we can learn different ways to be more awake at life.

#6 Reflective Appreciation.

What did you like most about today? What was your, what were you most thankful about today?

You see each and every single day that we live is an opportunity that we shouldn’t take lightly.

There are so many who were around us that don’t have the opportunity of life. Because we have the opportunity life, we should be appreciative of every moment that we have. But frankly, what was the most important moment for you today? What was the most appreciative moment that you had?

Days like this is where I reflect back and I say, “Man! That smile on my daughter’s face was one of the most appreciative moments of my day. That smile of my son’s, of my wife’s, those are the appreciative moments of my day. Whatever it may be for you, as we reflect back on the appreciation for the day, it has a powerful effect on what we’re going to do the next day.

As we build intention into our routine and we create our routine not to become something on autopilot, but a routine that allows us to wake up to the intention that we can carry out each and every single day, we then have the capability of designing a life, not just simply a day, but an entire life that we can be proud of. A life that can be engaging, powerful, and fulfilling.

I’m Ralph Plaskett. I am so excited to be able to share this information with you. I would love to hear how you’re taking this information and applying it to your life. Let me know in the comments down below of this video of what strategy that you decided to take and put as part of your routine. I’m Ralph Plaskett and until next week, enjoy the greatness that is life.

Take Control of Your Own Story

Summary:

  • Discovery how stories affect our brains, especially the stories we tell ourselves
  • Learn how to control the narrative you’ve been told and author a story of your own
  • 3 ways to immediately realize the benefits of stories for your life
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Transcript:

Stories are amazing and absolutely fantastic. We just can’t get enough of them. We love them so much.

We’ve been telling stories since the dawn of language. In fact, even older than that. Some of the earliest cave paintings are 40,000 years old, if not older. We’ve been telling stories since the dawn of man, but here’s a really interesting thing. It’s not like it’s an old thing that we are, are, are enamored with stories. We love them today.

Stories at the box office, some of them gross $1 billion in a given month. That is amazing. If you don’t think that’s amazing, frankly, I think it’s fantastic how much we are so enamored with stories. You see there is a certain part of our brain called the Broca region. Broca. Did I say it right? Brooooccccaaaa. The broca region of our brain [is responsible for language processing]. See when we say very factual statements such as, “the lady sang a beautiful song” that’s the region of the brain that lights up.

It’s okay. It’s a beautiful song. But it doesn’t give us any intrigue. But if we were to say that same statement or the intention behind that statement in all of the benefits that a story gives us, our entire brain lights up.

So for instance, if we were to say, “The lady who sang in a velvety voice, sang like she had a choir of angels behind her.” You see, that type of language as we depict it in a story lights up our entire brain and causes our visualization functions to kick in. It causes our imagination to functions, to kick in. Frankly, it causes are sensory elements within our brains to kick in and we can literally see ourselves on a theater of our minds within that story. We can hear the lady, we can smell what’s in the air, we can taste the meal that we just had before she began singing.

We can involve ourselves in the story and that is exactly why stories are so powerful. They move us. You see, stories give us the ability to really deliver emotion. Stories give us the ability to pass on ideas and connect with people far greater than factual statements. Stories allow for cultural identity and traditions to be passed on well beyond the persons who’ve created them.

The question is, “what stories are you telling yourself?”

We all walk around with a narrative. In fact, we walk with two narratives. We walk around with a major narrative and a minor narrative. See our major narrative – this is the one I like – the major narrative is the story that we tell about ourselves. It’s who we are. It’s the identity that we hold. It is a value system that we believe in. It is all of the hope and dreams that we have of our lives, our career, our family. This is our major narrative.

The minor narrative, on the other hand, it’s a little bit more defeating. It’s the one that speaks to the demoralizing statements that you had as a child. It’s the one that says, “you will never become anything.” It is the one that speaks to your fears and your doubts. This is the minor narrative, but the minor doesn’t always stay the minor and the major doesn’t always stay the major. They interchange. And when the minor narrative, the one that is demoralizing and defeating becomes a major, we have a serious problem.

Let’s take this as an example. We have two people. They are presenting at a major conference. Let’s say there are 500 people at this conference. The morning of this conference, they both wake up and their palms are sweaty, their heart is racing, the feel a little light-headed even. These are all signs of fear and anxiety. These are the physiological effects of fear and anxiety for so many people.

Jane is the first person that we’re going to have in this conversation. And Jane, you see, she feels this and she wonders: “Am I ready for this presentation? Did I prepare enough? Oh, I should have prepared some more. What if I get up there and I forget everything that I was intended to say? What if they don’t think that I know what I’m talking about? Maybe I should not go for this presentation? I should just call it quits.” See Jane has allowed her minor narrative to overtake her major narrative.

Now Susan, on the other hand, has a different response. Susan’s palms are sweaty, her heart is racing. She has a little bit of shortness of breath and she reminds herself that she’s prepared for this. She understands that this physiological response is a response to fear and anxiety, so she reminds herself that she has prepared for this presentation. She reminds herself that she’s the only one who can deliver this presentation and if she doesn’t, there is no one else who can and these 500 people will be without the message that she has come to bring.

She slows her breaths. She focuses on her exhale. She uses a meditative technique like this to gain composure of herself and her mind. She recenters and realizes that what she was going through with simply the anxiety and the excitement of the presentation.

Who do you believe had a better presentation?

You see, we all have major and minor narratives and the way that we are able to put them in check is:

#1: Aligning Narrative:

We need to all have an aligning narrative that we can author. We are the author of our destiny and we need to get into the driver’s seat and author our narrative.It doesn’t have to be a bestseller at first, but we should have an understanding of what that narrative speaks to.

One of the best exercises I’ve seen in this case is to come from the standpoint of your obituary. What would it read like? I know this can be rather morbid…if you allow it to go there. What would your obituary read? How would the people in the room at your funeral respond? Will you have left a void? You see, from this standpoint, we can author the type of life that we would want to lead so that we knew exactly how it would be at the position of our death. We won’t be there, but we could know exactly how that’s gonna play out by leading a life aligned to our narrative.

#2 Recognizing The Opposition’s Story:

Like I said in the beginning, stories are amazing and they will weave their way into our minds and into our hearts without us even realizing it. So the opposition narrative can easily come in as a major narrative without us recognizing it. We need to be able to have our aligning narrative as our anchor. We anchor down and we say, “This is the position that I am taking. This is the narrative for my life. This is the narrative that I have authored.”

We have to be able to ask ourselves, whose story am I hearing or am I telling? Does it align with my narrative? Is this story defeating or is it purposeful?

When we’re able to ask ourselves these questions, we can realign to our aligning narrative. But first, we have to have one in the first place. So number one, have an aligning narrative. Number two, understand oppositions a story so that we can align back to our narrative and stay grounded.

#3 Establish a Support System:

And number three, we must have a support system. We can’t do this alone.

No matter how you construct your support system, if its friends and family, coaches and mentors; if it’s youtube channels and magazines that empower you and make you feel good and grounded in your position. No matter how you construct your support system, it must do three things.

  1. Obviously, it must be supportive.
  2. it must be accountable.
  3. it must be challenging. It must move you and challenge you forward.

You see, stories are amazing and we have the ability to write our own story. We have the ability to get into the driver’s seat and drive and author a story that we can be proud of, author, a story that moves us and other people forward. So then we can accomplish the very goals that we have set out to be.

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What Makes Transformation Different?

Summary:

  • All change isn’t created equal. It is important to distinguish the types of change so that we can realize its value. There are 3 tiers of change that we must understand. 
  • Exploring what makes transformation different from other types of change and the personal value it has on our lives.
  • Detailing the competitive advantage of undergoing a transformation and 3 additional benefits. 
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