Designing Your Day For Impact

Summary:

We go through our days on autopilot executing our routines with great accuracy leaving us to live a life unfulfilled…skating on mediocrity. Yet, we have the opportunity to experience each day as a fulfilling, exciting, and joyful existence that we can be proud of and call uniquely our own. In this video, I share 6 elements that you can add to your daily routine to design a day of impact.

You’ll learn:

  • 6 essential elements to designing a day of impact
  • Why you cannot avoid routines and you don’t want to
  • How to be and stay happy, excited, and joyful regardless of what is trying to steal your joy
  • Download your workbook so that you can make the most of this training.

Transcript / Article:

Hey guys, Ralph Plaskett here. So glad you could join me this week on our continuing conversation about the things that really drive impact in our lives. Things that cause us to explore more and go deeper into various topics so that we could become the full expression of ourselves.

Let me know if this sounds familiar. So you wake up in the morning and you usually do what you usually do. In fact, you may even call it a morning routine. You go through this routine on autopilot and you don’t even think the wiser of it. You jump in and car and you know exactly where the traffic spots are. And in fact, you might even be getting anxious about the impending traffic. You get to work and it’s work as usual. You “engage” with the work that you have to do and it is typical. You could have lunch and it is ”the usual”. You know what lunch is or what it is going to be. It may not be what you had yesterday, but it certainly may be something that you had last week. You get home and you engage with your family and in the end, we call it a typical day.

Here’s a reality. We live our lives on autopilot. This description that I just gave was exactly a depiction of our lives and autopilot. And as you heard, it’s very routine. It becomes very boring, mediocre, less engaging than we ought to be able to live. So, so what is happening here? What happens is that by design that we live our lives on autopilot. Our brains are intended to become as efficient as they possibly can which results in our dependence on routines.

It would be way too much for our brains to have to relearn the activities that we have come to do by routine.

I think about it: You don’t think about walking. You just simply walk. You don’t think about how you brush your teeth. You just simply brush your teeth.

This causes us to live a life on autopilot and there is no blame here. But we have the opportunity to wake up from this autopilot life to live an engaged, fulfilling, joyful life of intention.

But how do we get there?

I have the humbling opportunity to coach some of the most amazing people in the world. And when I ask really simple yet profound questions, it often throws many of them off guard. Questions like, how do you show up? You see, the questions like “how do you show up?” forces one to think about the act of showing up. “What do you mean “how do I show up?” I just had to show up.” See the very act, the very question begs intention. How are we intentionally showing up to life?

So much of our life is on autopilot. The question becomes, how are you shifting from autopilot to manual?

I want to share with you six design elements of designing your day for impact. You see, when we’re intentional, we can wake up from the autopilot and really shape a day that we have designed. We can design a life that causes us to be more fulfilled, more engaged, more alive. So let’s go ahead and take a look at these six elements of an impactful day.

#1 Setting the mood.

Yes, yes. You’ve got to set the mood. Really. Have you ever asked yourself what kind of day am I going to have? By asking questions like “What kind of day am I going to have?” and “What kind of emotion do I want to hold today?” These are not typical things we ask ourselves. We get into our autopilot mode and we just simply do. We have our typical morning routine that we may change slightly but we don’t consciously think of the kind of day, the kind of emotion that we want to carry within a day.

When we’re able to shift from the perspective of autopilot to intention, then we can design a day where we carry the mood that we most want to hold. If I want to be joyful; if I want to be happy, How can I set the mood so that I can carry that emotion day in and day out?

You see, one powerful strategy is to hold a message for the day. What do I mean by holding the message? There is no shortage of inspirational and motivational quotes online. In fact, you can create your own, frankly. The power in those motivational quotes is really what kind of message do I want to carry to today? What message do I have for myself?

“I am going to have an amazing day” can be as simple of a message as that and carrying that with you causes you to simply have an amazing day. This isn’t talking about law of attraction or anything of that sort. Simply saying that I’m going to have an amazing day and intentionally declaring that causes an entire shift in your day. You shift from autopilot into intentional.

“I want to have an amazing day, so therefore I’m going to protect the thing that I want to have. I’m going to protect amazing.” So when something comes up against “amazing”, I am going to shield it with whatever I need to shield it: whatever strategy that I’m going to use to shield my amazing day.

So when you set the mood, be it with the strategy of a motivational or inspirational quote, or having this message that you hold for yourself. When you set the mood, you can start your day of an intention.

#2 One bold action.

When we are living a life on autopilot, we are simply just going into our routine. So when we’re in a routine, we just don’t do things that are outside of our routine. It wouldn’t even be called a routine otherwise. So in order to shift from that, we’ve got to take action. And frankly, not just simply any old action. We have to take bold action.

So what is something that you could do that takes you outside of your routine and frankly, even outside of your comfort zone, to allow you to, engage that much deeper, to have that much more of a fulfilling experience? Simply one bold action can shift you away from a mediocre, autopilot existence into an intentional existence around the mood that you want to set.

#3 Spontaneous Thanksgiving.

What can you do to give more of yourself? It doesn’t actually have to be something that you give, but simply being more present is a means of giving. If you actually want to give something that’s a powerful strategy as well. In fact, the act of giving releases happiness chemicals within your brain. You see, the very act of giving is not only beneficial for you because you received happiness chemicals in your brain and you feel much more alive, but it’s also releasing the happiness chemicals in the other person’s brain who’s receiving your giving because they feel appreciated. They feel thankful. It goes around and around.

So being spontaneous in your giving is a wonderful strategy/tool that you can use to be a lot more engaged and intentional.

So those three design elements are the things that we want to carry with us for the beginning part of our day as we’re considering how we’re designing a day of impact. Now at the end of our day, we have three more design elements that we want to use so that we can continue the act of intention.

#4: Reflective Acknowledgement.

So as we reflect back in our day, How did it go? Was it good? Was it bad? Did you actually do what you committed to yourself to do? We need to be able to gauge how intentional we were.

“I’m, I really commit to this thing call ‘intention’ because I know that intention is tied to these other goals that I have, that I want to be able to wake up from a reality of autopilot to a reality that I have the power to shape.”

Spontaneous acknowledgment allows us to go ahead and reflect back to our day and see how did it go.

#5 Reflective Improvement.

Here is the thing: If we do all of these strategies, we can fall right back into autopilot. Reflective improvement gives us the capability to not allow ourselves to fall into autopilot. What it does is says, “Hey, as good as a day may have been, how could I have done it better? What could I have done to do this better? What could I have done to do that better?”

These questions of improvement allow us not to fall back into autopilot but continued the mindset and the frame of intention. And as we continue intention, we can learn different ways to be more awake at life.

#6 Reflective Appreciation.

What did you like most about today? What was your, what were you most thankful about today?

You see each and every single day that we live is an opportunity that we shouldn’t take lightly.

There are so many who were around us that don’t have the opportunity of life. Because we have the opportunity life, we should be appreciative of every moment that we have. But frankly, what was the most important moment for you today? What was the most appreciative moment that you had?

Days like this is where I reflect back and I say, “Man! That smile on my daughter’s face was one of the most appreciative moments of my day. That smile of my son’s, of my wife’s, those are the appreciative moments of my day. Whatever it may be for you, as we reflect back on the appreciation for the day, it has a powerful effect on what we’re going to do the next day.

As we build intention into our routine and we create our routine not to become something on autopilot, but a routine that allows us to wake up to the intention that we can carry out each and every single day, we then have the capability of designing a life, not just simply a day, but an entire life that we can be proud of. A life that can be engaging, powerful, and fulfilling.

I’m Ralph Plaskett. I am so excited to be able to share this information with you. I would love to hear how you’re taking this information and applying it to your life. Let me know in the comments down below of this video of what strategy that you decided to take and put as part of your routine. I’m Ralph Plaskett and until next week, enjoy the greatness that is life.

An Exercise of Trust

Summary:

  • How our vacation to Mexico changed the way that we engaged with others
  • What is Trust Tolerance™ and the benefits it has on leading fulfilling and rewarding experiences
  • The 3 areas of Trust that we all have to explore at some point in our lives
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Transcript:

About two years ago, my wife and I went on an amazing vacation to Mexico. And what made that vacation so great, so amazing, for us was that it took us out of our comfort zone. Really, we made a commitment that in order to have one of the best vacations that we’ve ever experienced, we had to go beyond our growth edge, beyond our comfort zone. We committed to trying new things which meant that we were going to take on risks that we wouldn’t normally take on. And in doing so, we had one of the best vacations ever. What’s more, we learned about ourselves and how we interacted with the world. Really, it was an exercise of trust. What we learned was our trust tolerance. A trust tolerance is made up of two things: security and vulnerability. As we looked at security, we’re concerned about the physical, emotional and psychological security. How much of our feeling of security are we willing to release in our trust of others? As we looked vulnerability, we are most concerned about psychological vulnerability. How much vulnerability are we willing to take on or engage in? The lessons that we learned through this experience of exercising our trust tolerance, we were able to apply to other areas of our life than just our vacations. We’ve taken and applied it in other areas of our lives and certainly in our businesses.

Trust In Strangers:

The first area of trust I want to cover is the trust in strangers. And when I’m talking about trusting strangers, I’m not talking about someone you are sort of familiar with. I’m talking about absolute strangers. When we went on vacation to Mexico, we knew no one. When we got there, we had to absolutely trust in the greatness of humanity. And can I tell you we thoroughly enjoyed the people we interacted with throughout our entire vacation. And it really reenergized our hope and trust in humanity and not be consumed with what we see in the news or the media. Trusting in strangers, allows us to stretch the limit of our self awareness. Before we develop our capability of trusting in strangers, we go in with a set of preconceived notions. But as we trust in others who we have no engagement, no relationship, no involvement with what we begin to learn is a greater self awareness of how we engage with others. Trusting in strangers open up avenues and channels for us to learn and experience other people’s worlds and in doing so it opens up our worldview and gives us the ability to have a greater empathy and an understanding of the world around us.

Trust In Yourself:

This second area of trust, which is tied to the trust in strangers, is trusting in yourself. Specifically, we were looking at trust in our decision making ability and trust in the ability to recover from any decisions that may not have gone as expected. So here’s the thing about decisions. Decisions move us forward. When we don’t have an ability to make decisions, we are stuck. What’s worse, we are stuck in quicksand and we’re sinking. We’re sinking into not being able to make a decision because we have a paralysis of analysis. We come up with every reason under the sun as to not make the decision and of why the decision is such a difficult one to make. Decisions move us forward. When we have the ability to trust in our decisions and trust in our ability to recover from decisions, that’s when we know we can take on a little bit more risk. We can take on a little bit more of an ability to say, “I am willing to do [this] because I have confidence in myself to make a decision that is going to be a good one or make a decision that I can recover from.”

Trust in the Safety Beyond the Comfort Zone:

The last area of trust is trust in the safety beyond the comfort zone. Every single person on this planet has a fear or concern about the unknown. You don’t walk boldly into the dark as you walk boldly into the light. As we have a concern about the unknown, the only way to resolve that concern is to make the unknown known. As we’re looking at our growth edge, we tend to be comfortable with the box that we live in…until we come closer to the edge and certainly beyond the box we are in. The only way to realize the value in everything that this edge provides is to go beyond it by making the unknown known. Once we reveal the unknown, it becomes known and that knowledge causes us to feel safe at what was once our growth edge. There’s safety beyond [the growth edge]. Even if you don’t know that [today] the safety is there. All we have to do is start to become more aware [not as trivial as I made it sound]. We start to press against the growth edge until the box [that we live in] begins to expand and we become comfortable in the unknown. You see, especially in the expert space, there is an understanding that we must know all things and the truth is we can’t know all things. We must learn to get comfortable in knowing that we can’t know all things. In these three areas, we’re evaluating our trust tolerance and when we’re able to do that, we can have a more fulfilling and engaging experience; relationships; business acumen [example of any area of life] for example. There you have it guys! This is an exercise of trust in three areas:
  1. Trust in strangers,
  2. Trust in yourself, and
  3. Trust in the safety beyond the growth edge.